My daughters, Sierra and Brooke are like two peas in a pod, despite being two years apart in age. They pretty go everywhere together, and do everything together:
This also means they share the same circle of girlfriends on our street. They have one friend in particular who is the oldest of the group (there are a total of 6 of them who hang out together every weekend, and in the evenings when the weather is nice). This little girl is 1 year older than Sierra, and THREE years older than Brooke. Anyways, this little girl is having a birthday party in a week from now (and we all know how much little girls LOVE parties, right?):
Well this upcoming birthday party is causing a bit of drama in ze old princess castle. You see, only Sierra got invited, and to say that Brooke is disappointed, hurt and feeling left out because she wasn’t invited is putting it mildly. Oh the drama!!! Brooke does play with this little girl quite often, in fact she used to call on her to come over to play when Sierra was at hockey on Sunday’s because she was lonely with out her sister home every week. Unfortunately it was made VERY clear that Brooke wasn’t invited (trust me on this) and it happened right in front of Brooke.
I’m rather confused about how I should handle this situation. I understand that Brooke needs to learn that sometimes Sierra gets invited to parties and she doesn’t, and sometimes Brooke gets invited to parties that Sierra doesn’t get to go to. Now those situations are easy to explain when it’s a classroom friend, but it’s MUCH harder in this situation. Young egos are very fragile as well…
My question to you dear internets is this: – what do I do? Do I send Sierra to the party, and keep Brooke home? Do I do something special with Sierra and Brooke, send a gift, and have neither girl go to the party? (This option would greatly upset Sierra). Or do I talk to the mom and ask if Brooke can come?
What would you do?
Update: the party situation resolved itself when Miss Brooke got invited to another party – same day, same time! Yay!