This is a quick post because I’m sick with the flu, so instead of writing a long post or a challenge post, I want to open this discussion up to you….
I came across this picture on Pinterest (here’s the original source). It made me angry because of the caption the pinner put with it:
Can you tell from the picture which woman is HAPPIER? Which woman is HEALTHIER?
It’s your turn…
The thing I dislike about these kinds of pictures (and similar ones circulating around) is the fact that they perpetuate this unfair competition between women. Woman have been fighting for a long time to be considered equals with men, to be judged on our abilities and NOT on our looks…yet we (as women) judge each other constantly. We judge our ‘over-weight’ sisters as lazy, unhealthy, unhappy, and worse and then turn around and judge the skinny girls as too thin, claim they are anorexic and sickly. We judge the beautiful girls as too pretty or ‘loose’ or claim that they seek attention and therefore dress ‘slutty’ or wear too much makeup and then wait to find a flow (what? is that cellulite on her ass??). It’s time we stop judging and start loving and supporting each other. Which girl do I want to be?? Neither. I want to be myself…flaws and all. Lynn~The Learning Curves Blogger´s last [type] ..31 Days of Adventures ~ Week in Review
Right on Lynn! I’ve been both women and while I like where I am today I still deserved respect when I was the heavier woman. Men ignored me and women gave me the pitty look. Now I have men crossing the street to hold a door open for me and women are extremely catty towards me even though I act the same way as before because I’m STILL the same person I was before. I really am struggling with some of these issues – you would think I would like it but I deeply want someone to love me for who I am on the inside and not just because I look good. Either way – heavy or fit- it’s a struggle to find that. Missy´s last [type] ..I Made It In Print! My Article in the Fytness Fanatik Magazine
I have a bit of a problem with pics like this… and others. The correct question would be who is healthier? Not happier. What does this picture say? Judge a persons happiness by their size? Whoa whoa whoa… No way. That is stinking thinking. I know plenty of “over weight” friends who love life and are REALLY happier then my “skinny” friends. Our perception of happiness is skewed by things like this. It’s a bit sad.
Then again, saying who is healthier wouldn’t be the correct question either. Skinny woman above could be suffering breast cancer while larger one is cancer free. It’s all about perspective. Eisley Jacobs´s last [type] ..Runaway Choices
You got it! We can’t tell from the picture who is mentally or physically more healthy. Actually there’s a million things we can’t tell from that picture, which is precisely why I started this discussion.
What a picture. And what a question!
Of course, no-one can tell from a picture whether someone is happy or healthy. In fact, even when you speak to people face to face you still cannot tell.
I am no longer surprised at how both women and men hide their feelings and inner unhappiness.. and how they look makes not the slightest bit of difference because the thing that makes the difference is how they think about how they are.
And some of that is brought on by pictures in the media – similar to the one shown in this post!
But I am glad you have shown the picture because it will get people talking and thinking!
Hope you get well soon, too! Dave E Wilkes´s last [type] ..Is The New Performance Sports Drink Coconut Water – Zico Product Review
That picture really makes me think. Its impossible to know if either is happy or healthy based on their physical appearance and yet I think that we are almost programed to make assumptions: that the larger woman couldn’t be either and the smaller has a better chance at both based on her size alone. I’ve seen the picture before and I am not really sure what the intended message is but I agree with the others in that we should step away from comparison and look at health and happiness as relative to the person who lives it. Samantha´s last [type] ..Making Choices Easy
Wow, what an intense picture! You really made me think about it.
While I do completely agree with the above statements about how it’s impossible to judge who’s healthier or happier just by looking at a picture, I have something of my own to add.
One of the things I pride myself personally on is that, while I may be overweight, I am extremely healthy. I am strong, I exercise a lot, and I eat very nutritiously. One thing I noticed about the bigger woman in the picture is that she has a lot of cellulite. Even though I am overweight, because I am also very healthy, I have no cellulite whatsoever. I think that because of that small detail that she has cellulite on her body, you may be able to infer that she isn’t the healthiest person.
Also, I’m a strong believer in that there is a HUGE difference between someone like me who is a little bit overweight but still healthy, and a person like that who is extremely morbidly obese and who couldn’t possibly be a healthy person.
It’s okay to promote that women can be different sizes and still be healthy, but at some point you have to draw the line. It is NOT OKAY to be that big and be that unhealthy, and nobody should be proud of it. Miranda´s last [type] ..Blueberry Protein Muffins
I think saying because she has ‘cellulite’ that she’s the unhealthier one is kind of rude. I’m 5’3″, I weigh around 130lbs, and I run 5ks all year long. And I have cellulite on the back of my thighs…so stating that she’s the unhealthy one is kind of rude. Cellulite is usually hereditary, and it doesn’t just strike the overweight or obese. I’ve seen unedited photos of thin celebrities with cellulite.
I feel like this is a trick question. I’m not sure how to remain PC because I really like getting along with people. Here’s my perspective, when I see this photo I see to women. I don’t think it’s awful of me to say that I don’t want to be the woman that has obvious excess fat. This to me says she is not healthy and could be a prime candidate for heart disease, diabetes etc. I’m not saying that I need to be thin rail thin but healthy is the woman that I want to be. @PamelaMKramer – A Renaissance Woman´s last [type] ..5 Fingers of Thanks
I certainly gives you something to think about. IMO I am happier as the woman in front. I found it very hard when I gained 45 lb when I was pregnant with my daughter. I am very happy to fit back into my clothing – that doesn’t mean I wasn’t happy before – but for me, looking healthy and slim is important. There, I admitted it!
That is a loaded question, right!? What are the woman’s circumstances? Is she happy? Lonely? is she HEALTHY? Just by sheer physical appearance, I would want to be the tan ‘skinny’ chick. Yet… not knowing ALL the details makes it hard to make the FULL commitment to choose Rachel´s last [type] ..Motivation Monday: Keep it Real
[...] even mentally) healthy a person is simply by looking at them. Unfortunately in the debate on my Sunday night blog post and on the pin on pinterest that went with it, many people did try to reason why one of the women [...]
Hahah I’ve been both anyways Cheers
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